What It Feels Like For a Girl

So now that the men have had their turn, it's time for ours. We're an eloquent lot, ladies; can we show these men what they're missing?

I'll start, but let me say right off the bat that it's rather hard to describe that feeling with mere words. I find that the feeling of being penetrated is something that is best illustrated by a series of soft moans and sharp breathing, but I shall attempt to put into words what we experience. Keep in mind that a significant percentage of my sexual encounters have occurred during condom usage. The sensations are more acute if he's wearing a sheer polyurethane condom, or a latex condom with a space-giving pouch around the head. For both parties, a little (just a dab'll do ya!) extra lube both inside and outside of the condom is a good thing.

The first part of copulation isn't the penetration itself, but the anticipation. It's that warm throbbing sensation you get while he's pressed up against you, and you can detect tumescence. That feeling is incredible; your pulse quickens, you catch your breath, your face flushes, you close your eyes and know for sure what is about to happen, and it makes you want it that much more. It's hard not to jump him then and there, but you've learned to make this part last as long as you can, because it builds up the tension to be released later. Dancing closely is a massive turn-on, too. You can feel his need, and the surge of power you get from exciting him so much in turn excites you.

Let's skip ahead to the penetration, shall we?

The labial lips will by now-- after some intense foreplay-- be slick and pliable. I've heard about the unfolding sensation in women with longer inner labia (anyone want to confirm this for me?), but in my case, it's just a gentle throbbing that indicates readiness. The first part of penetration is the contact. First sensation? Warmth. Warmth, then pressure. Pressure against your clit, mons veneris, and labia as her rubs the head across the entrance to your pussy. Then comes friction. This varies depending on your state: waxed/shaved or natural. Waxed or shaved, the friction is felt directly against the surface of your skin, and it leaves a trail of dissipating heat in its wake. Natural, you don't feel as much heat, but you do feel the tug on the individual hairs as they snag on his penis pushing past. It's not painful, but you're hypersensitive and hopped up on endorphins, so all you feel is this uniquely titillating sensation.

And then, as his head pushes slowly past both sets of lips, you feel the upper and lower vaginal walls-- whose resting position is that of 2 convex surfaces touching-- parting to accommodate him. If you're ridged or otherwise textured on the inside, you can feel the smooth, slick transition as he slides right through. Your body opens up to accommodate him, and you feel this incredible but muted sense of fullness. There's also the sensation of another source of heat different from your core, as you feel his body temperature radiating inside you. It's interesting to feel the heat source as it transitions from outside to inside your body. The moment of entrance is an incredibly intimate feeling, best described as a very tight, naked, full-body hug, but on the inside.

Not surprisingly, different penises feel different. Thicker ones feel best in terms of conveying that feeling of fullness, and longer ones generally hurt during deep thrusting. The ones that curve upwards feel naturally adapted to the angle of your vagina during missionary, but may feel like they're poking you during doggystyle or if he enters you from the side. Uncircumcised ones generally have a less pronounced coronal ridge than circumcised ones, but the drag of the rolled-back foreskin heightens the friction, so in that sense, they feel similar.

The momentum of thrusting is mutifaceted: depending on the length and thickness of his penis,-- as well as the position in which you're copulating-- you can feel it bumping against your cervix, which may or may not be a good thing, depending on your sensitivity and where you are in your menstrual cycle. Many men aren't aware of this, but the hormonal ebbs and flows of a woman's menstrual cycle determine-- to quite an extent-- her enjoyment of sexual congress, as it manifests itself in soreness and/or sensitivity of her breasts, vulva, and cervix.

Back on topic, depending on your level of sustained excitement, the friction of intercourse is generally a good thing. Even through a condom, you can feel the coronal ridge of his penis gliding smoothly over your own internal ridges, and past the spongy fold of your G-spot. If a penis can't hit your G-spot, 2 fingers curled upwards and moving back and forth while a flattened palm presses down on your pubic bone do nicely. The waves of your peaking excitement are akin to sound frequencies; undulating and ever-changing in pitch, but at constant presence and velocity. If that's incorrect, fuck it; I sucked at physics anyway. Suffice it to say, the building anticipation is wonderful. At a certain point, her sensations hit a plateau, but after that, it's on to the inevitable orgasm, which depends on what you're doing to hasten its arrival.

Did I forget to mention the wetness? Um, yeah... I've been told on more than one occasion of the rinsing effect I have when I get really excited. More than one guy has joked about 'breaking out his wading boots to combat the floodwaters'. So there's that, too. That cascading feeling just before he enters you, and you feel all the fluid draining to your nether regions.

Feel free to share in detail some perspective on this matter, ladies.

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